Category: Dating and Relationships
Hi All. I've tried effertlessly for a very long time, to search for lists for preferrably blind, but not necessarly sighted, single lesbians, and the results have been less thandesireable. some of the web sites I've heard about haven't been of any help. Like: www.outplanet.com Please help. silkygirl
stop looking, and maybe you'll find someone.
Here, elsewhere or both?
I think people basically meant quit looking in general. There may be someone close that already like you. If you're looking thougth, you may miss them.
Oh thanks for the clarification.
Well I for one know I don't like guys! But as Christians we were taught that this is bad! I'm confused! Here's a web site for you. www.lesbotronic.com
i've already tried that site, and no luck. No results, even though my profile was completed.
stop looking, period. weather it be the internet or otherwise, just stop!
It's imposible to look for love. One can never find love, because love finds you.
People who try to find love are only wasting their time. Taking those silly love test, compability test, and such is only a big waste of time. Changing yourself to impress someone is really dumb and silly. Some one will love you for who u are.
I've been single my whole life, I've never even been on a date, and I don't really care. Someday, the right guy will show up. Being single is pretty cool actually.
It's just like Shakespeare said, " Love sees not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind."
SilkyGirl, while I do think looking for love online can be a dangerous thing, here's a couple ideas. The ACB has a division for blind gay and lesbian folks. I think it's called BFLAG. I'm not sure if they have a listserv, but maybe if you went on ACB's main site, you could track it down.
Also, the NFB doesn't have an official division, but a few Federationists did start a list through Google Groups. I'm not sure what that's called either, but maybe you could track that down as well.
Indeed looking online can be dangerous.
Also, hope, you don't like guys? Hmmm...nah, I'll leave that alone, it's to easy.
don't bother looking, coz it's not worth it, trust me
The truth is, your better off looking in person.
www.hmate.scom
Am I the only one who found post 10's choice of websites amusing? That just seems so un P C to me.
Nem, no one could ever accuse me of being PC, and that's all right. *Grin*
Silky, you're trying too hard, and in the wrong way. I've known of you for years, and you need to do 2 things. First, realize that no self-respecting lesbian can have anything of substance with someone who's already in a relationship. Second, you need to look beyond the desk. I don't know who my mystery girl will be, but I know that I'm more likely to run into her at the bookstore or in a group rather than through "why can't I find a lesbian" posts. Good luck, but seriously, make yourself available in all senses of the word if it's really what you want.
I don't know about anyone's particular situation, but it isn't easy. Yeah, don't live with a man if you want to meet women is an easy one. do the things that make you happy because if you are interesting you will be interesting to others. That part is pretty clear. But I disagree with the "stop looking" statements. Some people just happen to meet each other but even if you feel it's in god's hands, well, god can't help you win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket. I think most on this list are rather young and in school you get used to constantly meeting new people and lots of changing activities to participate in but, in general, even in the straight world, many people need help to find each other and we have it harder, we just do. If you are blind and lesbian you can't tell who else is, lesbian , that is. Not even if they are wearing extra large rainbow doohiggies. The ways straight people meet each other in everyday life are not so available. And there are a lot of people who wouldn't date someone blind. There's not much you can say about it - if it's a turn-off, it's a turn-off.
I feel lucky to have had a relatively easy time meeting my now ex lovers but the last two were completely closetted until I got involved with them and that was really hard, dealing with all their coming out issues and self-loathing, etc. Hard not to take personally. I say I wouldn't do that again, but that's pretty much who you meet if you don't live in a lesbian ghetto. I don't even use that word pejoratively - if I could spend my recreation time at the gay comunity center where I might just happen to meet the love of my life, I would, provided I found interesting things to do there, but between it being a particularly blind unfriendly atmosphere and that most of the activities there that I enjoy or relate to are mainly peopled by gay men, it's not a real option. And I'm not going to meet women on the local softball fields or basketball courts. As a guide dog user I keep getting turned away from lesbian bars but even if you do get in, then what? Stand there and hope someone talks to you, I guess. Most are too noisy to even overhear a conversation you can butt into. And if you meet them you don't know it - if they are gay, that is - and there if they are available. I am someone who likes to make things happen and hate the need to be passive and hope someone finds me.
There is one single lesbian in my life and at that only peripherally who I find myself attracted to. In the past I would have just told her how I feel or something and let it go where it might. Now I find myself holding back, not so much afraid of rejection as that if she's not interested there's nobody out there who might be. Well, not that they're not out there but despite what I wrote above, I did so much looking this year I need the energy for other things so am not likely to meet them.
That being said (and rather vociferously, I'm afraid) I know quite a few people who met on-line. and these are good and lasting relationships. It's just another vehicle and a somewhat accessible one. Just be careful. Have the first meeting in a public place - coffee shop or restaurant. don't hand them your bank card to help you get cash. Whatever. The dating sites all have lists of advice on how to protect yourself. Read them and think.
One of the larger and more acessible ones is www.match.com and a specifically lesbian site that a friend of mine likes is www.pinksofa.com
ON most of these sites you get a free profile and if someone has paid money they can write to you and you can therefore write them back but if you want to contact someone yourself, you need to pay something. and expect it to take time.
just to clarify, the reason I said stop looking, is cause you're less likely to find someone by doing so.
Some day the right one may find you.
I can only hope, hope, and keep hoping! I know I haven't posted here in awhile, bt don't have any news.
Well, for what it's worth, there's a woman out there, Nita Tucker,making a lot of money teling people how to find someone and it's pretty much the routine I went through. For those of you in the US who can use bookshare, her book is available there - How Not to Stay Single. She's a straight non-disabled woman and kind of says the same thing about how you probably won't find someone if you're not actively looking unless you are in college or younger.